In the United States divorce is common, and there are several reasons as to why divorce may happen, but the long lasting effects on children needs to be kept into consideration. Children react from their parent’s divorce in different ways, depending on the circumstances. There was a test study done on 20 children ages 6-10 years. The 20 children were split half living in a united family and half living in a divorced family (Deshpande). The children’s responses to Adaptive Mechanism Schedule and Story Dynamics were recorded and the result was divorce impacts children in a negative way (Deshpande). Different children will be affected in various ways, depending on the gender, age, and how they cope with feelings. Children look up and adhere to their parents, therefore if they are present during arguments they feel stress and are aware of current feelings. When a couple is married, the children are all connected and part of the family; whenever the family gets separated everyone is affected. Younger children have a hard time understanding and adjusting to living arrangements between parents. Divorce is said to cause the children to end up struggling with management methods, losing virginity at a young age, and lesson the sense of masculinity and femininity as young adults. This credible source gave results from a research study concluding that divorce overall has negative effects on children and relationships. If children grow up seeing their parents fighting and deal with splitting their lives living with each parent, the probability of their marriage ending in divorce is high.
Jane Anderson studied the impact of divorce on children using roughly three decades of research and study. The results from evaluating children in families of divorced parents and families of married parents resulted in the conclusion that children living in families with married parents have better physical, emotional, and academic well-being. There were some instances where the parents would try and work things out and due to their effort, the children react positively. Only 45.8 percent of children get to age 17 before their parents get divorced, and 72 percent of marriages only last 14 years according to a study done in 2009 by an American Community Survey (Anderson). After a divorce people tend to get married again, but sadly that marriage ends in divorce too, causing the children to adapt to the recurring change. Results from a meta-analysis in 2001 shows that children from divorced families tend to score naturally lower on “academic achievement, conduct, psychological adjustment, self-concept, and social relations” (Anderson).
Although the majority of effects on children from their parents divorcing are said to be negative, there are also contradicting information telling us otherwise. In some cases, divorce has no impact on the children. In 2009 over 1,000 teenagers were asked to take the GordonPoll Youth Survey(™) (Jolivet). Teenagers ages fourteen to eighteen said they feel more independent and strong when asked about divorce. The teens also expressed how they are old enough to understand the circumstances and they want what is best for their parents. Therefore divorce may lead to children and teenage independence.
The thoughts on the effects of divorce on children is stereotypical and evidently there are not many studies showing specific negative results from divorce on children. Amato and Irving (2006) suggest that the events that occur during the divorce, not the actual divorce cause negative connotations for children of divorced families (Pantelis). A study involving families going through divorce received 76 responses from parents stating the impact of the divorce on the offspring ages 2-17 the their adjustments. The results showed that if the parent’s relationship with the child was balanced, it would help the child’s adjustment (Pantelis). This shows that in some cases divorced parents grow closer to their children, and are able to have one-on-one time with them.
Based on what I have read, I think overall divorce impacts children in a negative way, making it hard for them to see what marriage actually looks like. Obviously if a parent’s relationship is dangerous and getting a divorce was the best option, then I would say divorce was overall helping the child. In conclusion, children are most likely to end up in a divorce also and can experience trouble with emotions and interactions if their parents get a divorce.
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